[WEBINAR] Building Community With Your Marriage Ministry

[WEBINAR] Building Community With Your Marriage Ministry

Marriages do not fail alone. There’s research that shows that the divorce of a relative or close friend can increase your likelihood of divorce up to 75%. Even if it’s a friend of a friend who gets divorced, that increases the risk as much as 33%.

I don’t know about you, but that’s scary. It’s enough to make you to not want to have any close friends or relatives. Because we all know someone who is divorced, or might be in the future.

So what chance does our marriage have of making it? And what can church leaders do when we constantly witness separations and divorces happen in couples we know and care about?

The Importance of Community

The good news is that the flip side is true as well—no marriage succeeds alone, either. Isolating you and your spouse from everyone else and from culture isn’t going to help you. In fact, it may actually make things worse for your marriage.

That’s because community is important to relationships. We can’t rely on our spouse to meet all of our relational needs. We need other people to support us and take some of that burden off of our spouse.

In her book Hold Me Tight, psychologist Dr. Sue Johnson says “We now ask our lovers for the emotional connection and sense of belonging that my grandmother could get from a whole village.”

It’s not whether or not you surround your marriage with other people that’s crucial—it’s who you’re choosing to surround yourself with. And that’s where you as a church leader comes in.

Building Community in Small Groups

It’s for this reason that we always create a new small group study every year. This provides content around which to create the context of community. Because we know that real life change happens in circles instead of rows.

You might call this context different things in your church—community groups, Sunday school, Bible studies, or life groups. We call them small groups, but they’re all the same thing. And they’re all equally as important.

That’s exactly the topic that we’re going to tackle in our latest quarterly leadership webinar—how to build a community within your marriage ministry. Here are all of the details:

#OC19 Breakout Notes: Get the Most Out of the Married People Strategy

#OC19 Breakout Notes: Get the Most Out of the Married People Strategy

Orange Conference 2019

Speaker: Ted Lowe

  • 59% of Christians disconnect either permanently or for an extended period of time from church life after age 15. —Barna Research
  • Millennials top two priorities. (Pew Research)
    • To be a great parent
    • To have a great marriage
  • Because marriage matters to millennials the church can matter to millennials.
    Because marriage matters to everyone the church can matter to everyone.
  • Millennials need a bridge into the church.
    • Authenticity
    • Relevance
    • Experiences
    • Acceptance
    • Inclusion
    • Respect
    • Community
  • Stats about church events
    • Special events have significant appeal to those ages 18-45 years old. —Ed Stetzer, Christianity Today
    • 49% agree special events make evangelizing easier. —Ed Stetzer, Christianity Today
    • 57% of churchless Americans would prefer a different introduction to church vs. Sunday Service. —Reach Right Studios
    • 74% of those who participate in special events feel more connected with their faith community.
    • 70% believe special events allow them to meet others of their faith.
    • 69% agree special event attendance strengthens their faith.
    • 56% affirm these events help them overcome life’s difficulties.
    • 49% agree special events make evangelizing easier.
      Christianity Today
  • Ways to use the Larger Group Experiences
    • One-night events
    • Worship services
    • Marriage retreats
  • Closer Annual Marriage Ministry Bundle
    • Two larger group events: Fall Marriage Kickoff & Valentine’s Event
    • Small group study: Closer Connection, the 4 Ways We Communicate
    • Four date nights: Take Out Date, Play Date, Picnic Date, & Pizza Date
    • One-year of Married People Monthly, a customizable email template
    • One month free of the MP Monthly for all the couples at your church
    • All of the
  • Testimonials
    • “I consistently hear the same thread: ‘We never had intentional marriage modeled for us, and it always seemed like hard work and survival. But Married People has helped us have fun and given us practical steps to take in marriage.’ At least three couples per event have the same story.” Josh Fortney
    • “We had a young couple in our community that had only been married three or four months and found themselves struggling and desperate. They had no church affiliation. They randomly googled “marriage help group” and our marriage small group came up. Since joining, they would tell you that their marriage is getting better each week. In addition, they have begun a journey towards faith in Christ as well!” Kyle Plew
    • “I would talk about the couple who decided to try again after our community event. I would also talk about having just a night to be around other couples who are focusing on their marriage makes it easier to commit to focusing on yours—you are not alone.” Heather Matarazzo
    • “I’ve heard from several couples that they now focus on the little things more since attending our events. Another thing I’ve heard is that couples see the value in being proactive in caring for their marriage as opposed to ignoring things and hoping the bad stuff fixes itself.” Monica Humpal
  • Things To Know
#OC19 Breakout Notes: Reaching Marriages Today

#OC19 Breakout Notes: Reaching Marriages Today

Speaker: Matt Engle

  • One of my brothers, came from Judah with some other men, and I questioned them about the people who had survived the exile, and also about the city, Jerusalem. They said to me, “The people who survived the exile and are in great trouble and disgrace. The wall of the city is broken down, and its gates have been burned with fire.” When I heard these things, I sat down and wept.” —Nehemiah 1:1-4
  • Church Statistics
    • 80 % of churches plateaued or declining
    • 23% of Americans are “nones”
    • 3 million people leave the organized church each year
    • 59% of millennials raised in church have dropped out
  • To understand the change that is happening we need to understand three big ideas
    • Big Data
    • Predictive Analytics
    • Precision Messaging
  • Big Data: extremely large data sets that may be analysed computationally to reveal patterns, trends, and associations, especially relating to human behavior and interactions
  • Where does Big Data come from? In the next 60 seconds:
    • 70,017 hours watched on Netflix
    • $752,522 spent on Amazon
    • 3.5 million search queries on Google
    • 16 million text messages sent
    • 1.8 million Snapchats created
    • 452,000 Tweets sent
    • 46,200 photos uploaded to Instagram
    • 4.1 million videos viewed on YouTube
    • 900,000 logins to Facebook
    • 156 million emails sent
  • Big data can show us what we have never been able to see before.
    • With big data: correlation does not equal causation (but it doesn’t really matter).
    • Big Data shows us “what” not necessarily “why”
  • Big Data and Zacchaeus
    • First party data: he was short, climbed a tree, athletic and fit
    • Second party data: Male, Jewish, Tax Collector, Chief Tax Collector, Income 1%, Homeowner
    • Big Data: he wanted to see Jesus
  • Predictive Analytics
    • Predictive Analytics help churches use data to inform their mission
    • People who are doing “A” have done “B”, “F”, “Z” in the past.
    • People who are currently doing “B”, “F”, “Z” are most likely to do “A” in the future.
  • Precision Messaging
    • Motivations give insight into the why behind the actions, behaviors, and decision making of your selected audience.
    • The right message to the right person at the right time…on the right device
    • Relationship is key to growth; Engagement is key to Relationship!
    • Know your city and people from Big Data and engagement
#OC19 Breakout Notes: Build a Great Marriage Strategy

#OC19 Breakout Notes: Build a Great Marriage Strategy

Orange Conference 2019

Speakers: Ted Lowe & Dave Safstrom

  • Marriage is still the reflection of Christ and the Church.
  • Marriage is a spiritual issue.
  • One of the best gifts your church can give a kid is a mom and dad whose marriage is thriving.
    • Or step parents whose marriage is thriving.
    • Or foster parents whose marriage is thriving.
    • Or grandparents whose marriage is thriving.
    • Or youth leaders whose marriage is thriving.
  • 59% of Christians disconnect either permanently or for an extended period of time from church life after age 15. —Barna Research
  • 1996: 9% identified as “nones.”
    2016: 19% identified as “nones.” —Barna Research
  • Millennials top two priorities (according to Pew Research)
  1. To be a great parent
  2. To have a great marriage
  • Marriage isn’t seen as urgent by the church, but it’s still important.
    • You are voting no everyone when you say we can’t do marriage ministry.
    • Don’t say no because of a lack of time, resources, or leaders.
  • Deficit mentality: “We don’t have enough.”
    Strategic Scarcity: “Let’s work with what we have.”
  • “Even so the body is not made up of one part but of many. . . But in fact God has placed the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be. If they were all one part, where would the body be? As it is, there are many parts, but one body.” —1 Corinthians 12:12, 18-20
  • Things to Know:
    • Talk with Misty Phillips, Married People Orange Specialist: info@marriedpeople.org
    • Check out the Marriage Ministry Starter Kit in the Orange Store: marriedpeople.org/closer
    • Get a free month of MarriedPeople Membership
: marriedpeople.org/ItsPersonal
    • Join the Married People Leaders Facebook Group: https://facebook.com/groups/MarriedLeaders/

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