by Adam Roberson

Do you ever look at your spouse and remember what it felt like to fall in love with them? Remember what it was like to feel your whole world light up when they called and to feel those little butterflies swooping through your stomach at just the thought of them walking through the door? It’’s an amazing feeling. The question is, what happened to it?

What happened to the light headed happiness that only comes from spending time with your best friend in the entire world?
Life happened.
Bills happened.
Jobs happened.
Kids happened.
Responsibility happened.

And all those necessary, and even wonderful, things pulled just a little bit more of your attention towards their call and away from the love and bond you share with your spouse. What was once new and novel became habit and you began to take the one you love most for granted.

Chances are, this is the reality of many of your parents and volunteers who walk through the doors of your church every week. The best thing you can do for your family ministry environments is to focus your time and energy on the marriages involved. When you have healthy marriages, you have healthy family ministry environments.

We are constantly trying to find way to build healthy marriages. Whether it’s through quarterly Date Nights, one night events, or small group studies, we are encouraging couples to connect.

We value marriage and believe it provides us will not only healthy environments, but healthy couples who lead in those environments week by week.

The best thing you can do for your family ministry environments is to figure how you can incorporate healthy marriages in your environments.

What are some things your church is doing to impact the marriages of the families involved in your ministries?


Adam Roberson is the Director of Family Ministry and Married Life at Rock Point Church in Chattanooga, Tennessee. Adam and his wife Monica were married in 2006 and have three children, Jackson, Beckham and Evelyn.